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ISBN-10: 0872869180
ISBN-13: 9780872869189
Publisher: City Lights Books
Publish Date: 10/28/2025
Dimensions: 8.00" L, 5.60" W, 0.60" H

Published by City Lights

Love Will Save Us, Right?: A Memoir

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Overview

A tender, funny, stunningly candid memoir about the joys and challenges of parenting a neurodivergent young adult that reads like a heady concoction of Dorothy Allison, Anne Lamott, Alison Bechdel and David Sedaris.

“This book sparkles with life, humor and infinite chutzpah.”–Michelle Tea, author of Valencia

“Suzette Partido has written the handbook we’ve been waiting for. Love Will Save Us, Right? is a knockout memoir . . . Essential reading for anyone trying to make sense of America’s broken promises while finding beauty in all the broken places. A stunning debut from an exciting new voice in American literature.”–Ariel Gore, author of Rehearsals for Dying: Digressions on Love and Cancer

When Suzette Partido’s family receives a shut-off notice due to an unpaid water bill, the timing couldn’t be worse. She’s just left her job to take over round-the-clock caregiving for her neurodivergent child.

Once she finds the money to pay off the bill, Suzette sits down and begins to write about her life, one that centers around mental health struggles, special needs parenting, and “the infallible exhaustion of queer love.” That essay grew into this groundbreaking memoir, destined to become a modern classic.

In an irreverent, time-traveling coming-of-age story about family, love, and resilience, Partido strikes a balance between two perspectives — motherly and subversive. She engages her readers in an easy intimacy, bringing them along with her on the relentless pursuit of safe harbor for her family while navigating a revolving door of struggle, exasperation, kindness, community, and laugh-out-loud naughtiness, wrapped in a promise of unyielding love.

  • Suzette Partido has worked as a community developer and non-profit organizer for three decades. She trained as an AIDS chaplain, street outreach worker, substance abuse counselor, reproductive health educator, volunteer coordinator, and public speaker. She served a large urban liberal congregation for more than thirteen years and, before retiring, managed an HHSA community liaison for children's public behavioral health and served as the Director of Education for a local affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness. She lives with her neurodivergent young adult son and her wife inside a ten-by-ten canvas tent in her mother's backyard in San Diego, CA. 

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"The memoir Love Will Save Us, Right? is a fiercely funny account of the trials Suzette Partido faced raising her neurodivergent son while dealing with food insecurity and longtime familial dysfunction. Partido, a former City Lights Bookstore clerk who has been compared to Anne Lamott and Dorothy Allison, is the real deal."–Paul Wilner, ALTA Magazine

"Partido discusses navigating food insecurity while caring for her neurodivergent son in her bluntly moving debut. . . . This raw look at the realities of poverty and caregiving will appeal to fans of Kate Swenson's Forever Boy."–Publishers Weekly

"At times humorous or distressing or emotional, yet always grounded in compassion, Love Will Save Us, Right? is an engaging reflection on living and parenting through medical diagnoses, capitalism, and complicated family history."–Tomas Moniz, author of All Friends Are Necessary

"'It is the Ancestor's breath that pushes me forward. An artisanal cocktail of capital-L-love, made with equal parts superstition, sunrise, and sorrow . . . ' This passage made me put the book down and marvel at the quality of Partido's writing. She navigates family, a neurospicy kid, and poverty with intelligence, snark, honesty, and love. In other news, come the Zombie Apocalypse, Partido's team is the one you want to latch onto. Where you might feel like giving up, she and her family find a way."–Meg Barnhouse, author of Seeds of a Spirited Life

"Suzette Partido holds an open-ended round trip ticket to Hell and back.Love Will Save Us, Right?is a feast for your heart and your brain and your preconceptions of what queer family life on the spectrum looks like. Like a blob of wasabi, you don't know whether to spit, savor, or swallow. Best not to overthink it and do all three. Partido's words draw you into a world inhabited by fallen angels, Sisyphus, and outside-the-box genius, with a firm grasp on her survival tools of humor and hope. And love. Always love."–Eve Diana, contributor to The Complete Gay and Lesbian Parenting Guide

"Suzette tells her story in language that allows you to inhabit her world readily, while showcasing the sense of humor and purpose that helped her survive it all. . . . Each essay stands on its own, but together they weave a unique tapestry of hilarity, hardship, hope . . . the narrative uncompromising in the gritty details of her reality."–Nancy Fisk, First Words

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Details

ISBN-10: 0872869180
ISBN-13: 9780872869189
Publisher: City Lights Books
Publish Date: 10/28/2025
Dimensions: 8.00" L, 5.60" W, 0.60" H
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