2022 Foreword INDIES Finalist in "Essays"
No. 6 in "Salon's Favorite Books of 2022"
The New York Times, "Mourning Songs for Lives, and Art, That Could Have Been"
Buzzfeed, "17 Books from Independent Publishers You Need to Read this Summer"
Buzzfeed, "17 Short Story And Essay Collections For When You Want To Laugh, Cry, Think, Or Swoon"
LitReactor, "LitReactor Staff Picks: The Best Books of 2022"
2022 International Rubery Book Awards Nonfiction Winner
"Lyrical and poignant."
–Roxane Gay on "Mercy" "This cataclysmic event – a very public story collides with a family's specific, private loss – is the axis around which Farmer's meditations and explorations of guilt, place, grief and violence revolve, in memorable essays that take both traditional and experimental forms. Interspersed throughout are fascinating transcripts of interviews she recorded earlier with both grandparents, allowing them to be known on the page as the dynamic, loving couple they were."
–Erin Keane, Salon, "Favorite Books of 2022" "Remembering an act of violence born not out of malice, but love, Farmer's narrative is melancholic, but still full of hope."
–"Mourning Songs for Lives, and Art, That Could Have Been," by Kat Chow, The New York Times "What follows are essays about gun culture, violence, and what it means to die in America. But Farmer also takes a hard look at what it means to live; there are delightful passages of transcripts made from taped interviews of her grandparents reminiscing. There are also Farmer's own questions about teaching and writing while stringing together adjunct jobs in order to barely make rent, complicated untanglings of family histories and mental health, and examinations of relationships, from the platonic to the romantic. Dear Damage, an open letter to demons of the past, still gives plenty of space for connection and joy."
–"17 Books from Independent Publishers You Need to Read this Summer" by Wendy J. Fox, Buzzfeed "[G]ripping from the start...a truly unique and fascinating book."
–"17 Short Story And Essay Collections For When You Want To Laugh, Cry, Think, Or Swoon," Buzzfeed "Poet Farmer (
The Women) parses her complicated family history to create a heart-wrenching portrait of love, family, loss, and aging in this astounding collection.....In 'Mercy, ' she writes, 'while I'm skeptical of mining beauty from pain... or landing on a diamond takeaway or even claiming good can come from it, I've learned that time-freezing anguish makes for micro-moments of unexpected reverence.' Farmer exceeds her intention; the moments she depicts teem with power. This potent work introduces Farmer as a writer to watch."
–Publishers Weekly starred review "A slim...but striking book."
–Kirkus Reviews "The short, connected, associative essays in
Dear Damage are by turns ecstatic, stark, poetic, deeply and necessarily sorrowful, and also reportorial....Farmer is a curator of the stories of others, stories that are also her selves: writer, family member, and chorus in a Greek tragedy too. This book announces itself as a collection of essays, but it is also autobiography, commentary, legal transcripts, revised memories, and dream scenarios, all told with the vulnerability and intimacy of a writer a few lucky readers already know as a powerful voice talking back to 'Damage.'"
–Andrew Tonkovich, Los Angeles Review of Books "[A] deft hand at compressed narratives filled to emotional brims."
–"Beauty and Lightness: Gina Nutt and Ashley Marie Farmer in Conversation," The Millions "A love letter and a dirge, a rumination on grief, family, a life in the arts, and never less than beautiful."
–"Staff Picks: The Best Books of 2022" by Ben Tanzer, LitReactor "Farmer's straightforward prose...appears effortless."
–Harvard Review Online "
Dear Damage delves into an exploration of beginnings and endings, lightness and darkness, as well as the damaging policies that plague us as a country, and more. The book is ingeniously crafted using multiple forms–from legal documents to internet comments–all of which seamlessly refresh the memoir genre."
–Rebecca Holcomb for Southeast Review "[D]azzling."
–Ryan Ridge, Southwest Review "Open it up, Farmer seems to implore us, set the needle to play, and listen. Just listen."
–Barrett Bowlin, Salamander Magazine "
Dear Damage caused me to repeatedly lose my breath, caught as I was between my desire to see what would happen next, and how it was going to happen, as well as wanting to know more about the ideas, decisions and characters–especially their lives before this–that graced the pages before me."
–Ben Tanzer, LitReactor Magazine "[A] searing yet tender work of interrogation."
–The Swell and the Fury "Farmer shows she can grasp a readership with rare authorial honesty."
–LEO Weekly "In
Dear Damage, Ashley Marie Farmer has given us a window into her life experience through compelling storytelling, lovely language, and welcome grace....Farmer says, in the book, 'I'm trying to build a house.' Brava, I say, for showing us all the rooms."
–Good River Review "Her [essays] are vivid and full of carefully observed details, and darkness is the essential backdrop to light."
–"In Dear Damage, Tragedy Foregrounds the Strength of Ashley Farmer's Family" by Geoff Wichert, 15 bytes "
Dear Damage plumbs devastating loss, family, grief, gun violence, and love–all with glittering tenderness. Ashley Marie Farmer's mind is vast and complex, and her compassion stuns as she makes 'a quiet study of pain' while acknowledging that 'maybe pain has made a study of me.' These essays leave me aching and awestruck."
–Gina Nutt, author of Night Rooms "
Dear Damage is many things at once: an expertly written collection of literary essays, the riveting story of an unfathomable act of violence, a work of breathtaking empathy, a sublime and generous account of love and grief, and the account of an enormously talented writer's self-creation. Together, they assemble into a book that is somehow all of that and more: a marvel, a reckoning, possibly a miracle."
–Justin St. Germain, author of Son of a Gun "Prose in the hands of a poet,
Dear Damage is 'radiant and unabridged, ' a story of love and violence set within the incoherence of American values. Rarely are readers gifted with the work of a mind equally incisive as it is elegant. Ashley Marie Farmer's important
Dear Damage speaks to all times from within the salience of our own particular troubled American now."
–Michelle Latiolais, author of She and Widow Past reviews: "Whip smart and empathetic...all of it rendered beautifully, the poet's ear and the proser's eye working together to encapsulate and expound."
–Christopher Kennedy, author of Clues From the Animal Kingdom "Reminiscent of Aimee Bender, Sheila Heti, and Aurelie Sheehan."
–Electric Lit "The conviction of Lydia Davis...and a linguistic inventiveness equal to that of Diane Williams."
–The Masters Review "Surreal verve and melancholy tenderness."
–Gina Nutt, author of Night Room "A highly original work of art."
–The Collagist "How do we read a book like
Beside Myself? Like a gift. We study it from all sides, consider how it feels in our hands, read, consider, then read it again. "
–The Rumpus
